In this mother's hood

Just so you know…I was forwarded your article by [a local children’s camp director]. I’m not sure if you realize how many lives you touch through your writing.

From my vantage point, you are the “one” that the other Mommies look at and say “How does she do it?” I’m in awe… Not to mention that you still look like a “hottie tottie” with great arm muscles 🙂

Have a fantastic day!!!

Wow, huh? That’s the content of an email I received about 30 minutes ago. From a woman whom I regard as The It Mom. With amazing muscles btw.

So, if you’re looking for a little evidence of the role of fate in our lives, this is what I was doing when that email arrived:

I was researching that In the Motherhood webisode thing, sponsored by Suave and Sprint and starring Leah Remini and had just found this description that’s all about Alpha Moms and the show, because I wanted a better sense of just how out of touch I might be with mothers of today, since I’d already Google Blog-searched the webisode and everything seemed to be product referral-type posts about this great new thing for moms. And I wanted to better understand,

Why don’t I feel like it’s a great new thing for moms?

Well, for starters, I don’t know what an Alpha Mom is. I had to Google it.

After I read this excellent discussion about the concept at, no surprise, BlogHer, I knew exactly where I thought I fit in, as described by the blog post’s author: “…some of the most imperfect mommybloggers seem to be the ones that most of the other moms are listening to and relating to as a mom.” Me! Me! Me!

Just so you know…I was forwarded your article by [a local children’s camp director]. I’m not sure if you realize how many lives you touch through your writing.

From my vantage point, you are the “one” that the other Mommies look at and say “How does she do it?” I’m in awe… Not to mention that you still look like a “hottie tottie” with great arm muscles 🙂

Have a fantastic day!!!

I know that parents are the best resource our children and our schools have for improving education. And the Winkelman decision proves that even our country’s highest court recognizes the benefits when parents tend toward the helicopter parent model (I love to chide my kids, “Would you rather I be a parent who doesn’t care?”). But I resisted being a room mother for years and I forget lunch money and I forget Pajama Day and I forget…

Just so you know…I was forwarded your article by [a local children’s camp director]. I’m not sure if you realize how many lives you touch through your writing.

From my vantage point, you are the “one” that the other Mommies look at and say “How does she do it?” I’m in awe… Not to mention that you still look like a “hottie tottie” with great arm muscles 🙂

Have a fantastic day!!!

Then there’s discipline: I believe that this mother, who put her child in a position that made him feel shame and humiliation because she said that she believes it gives him a much longer-lasting lesson than hitting him, acted appropriately in disciplining her child. Watch the video here and listen to her, and to her son.

But that doesn’t mean that I don’t question what I’m doing, or obsess over choices and wonder how I’ve damaged my kids, with or without physical punishment.

Just so you know…I was forwarded your article by [a local children’s camp director]. I’m not sure if you realize how many lives you touch through your writing.

From my vantage point, you are the “one” that the other Mommies look at and say “How does she do it?” I’m in awe… Not to mention that you still look like a “hottie tottie” with great arm muscles 🙂

Have a fantastic day!!!

I don’t know how many more times in my life I’ll be saying that I’m blessed – with friends, family, children, colleagues, blogger buddies, mentors, even enemies from whom I learn and on and on.

But I will never tire of saying it. I am so blessed.

Thanks, Emailer.

3 thoughts on “In this mother's hood

  1. It’s a lovely thing to know that you make a difference. You make a difference to us bloggers as well.And have to agree on the hottie tottie thing.

  2. Great post, Jill. And I agree with the emailer, you’re definitely a mom worth looking up to. For me the example is your posts on the Bar Mitzvah. They were a joy to read and all through it I was thinking how I could never have brought something like that off. Jill has l33t Momz Ski11z!I used to think that I wasn’t a very good mom. My role model being my own stay at home mom, and me, as a divorced mom who had to work full time, not being able to live up to those standards I’d created and imposed upon myself.Then my kids grew up and left home. They call all the time, they ask my advice or just want to vent about their day. My son spoke to me yesterday about some serious deep thoughts he was having as he mentally prepares to go to Iraq. He said often, “it’s what I learned from you”. While raising him I despaired that I was getting through at all. Wow is all I can think now.I was never an “alpha mom” but the kids turned out ok and I’m starting to feel pretty good about things.

  3. As a fellow mom – just remember – we don’t DO it – we just ARE.how ZEN of us as mothers!!When people ask me how I handle twins & disability I say:1. insanity2. I don’t know any better;)

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